It says instead of constantly looking for the right person, God tells us to become the right person.
Instead of looking for love, God tells us to realize that love has already found us! God loves as no one else ever can. The best way for us to demonstrate that we have understood & accepted God's love is to learn to imitate him as closely as possible in the way we treat others.
Our problem however is that loving isnt easy. You & I simply dont have the power to always forgive or be consistently kind. Our love, strength, will, & understanding dont stretch that far. We dont have the power to love this way unless we as so filled with God's love that we recognize that our deepest needs have already been met, and we're no longer expecting another human being to "complete" us.
He tells about Les & Leslie Parrott illustrating this in their book RELATIONSHIPS. They teach a course called relationship 101 at a college, they tell the students its a pass/fail class. You dont have to take notes but if you want to learn about relationships, here is one sentence they want you to write down. It will affect every relationship you have. However much you understand this sentence & apply it, all your relationships are transformed. But if you dont understand or are unwilling to do what this sentence says, your relationships will be dysfunctional. "If you attempt to build intimacy with a person before you've done the hard work of becoming a whole and healthy person, every relationship will be an attempt to complete the hole in your heart and the lack of what you dont have. That relationship will end in disaster. You will be expecting another person to do something for you that he or she cannot do.
Lots to think about.
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